No one wants to make an appointment with a divorce attorney, just
like no one wants to see flashing lights in their rear view mirror when they
are rushing somewhere. When these things happen, it’s best to be prepared
so you can leave with the least amount of harm as possible.
After a divorce consultation, most clients tell me that they
learned a lot, but at times the amount of information is overwhelming, along
with the impact of a divorce on their family. In order to have the best
outcome to the appointment, I have a few tips as to what you may be expected to
bring to the appointment, and what types of issues are discussed.
First and foremost, always bring a list of questions that you have
with you to the appointment. If you hear something you don’t like at the
beginning of the appointment (like how your spouse has a great case for spousal
support), your mind may go blank and prove rather useless for the rest of the
meeting. Feel free to take notes as to what the attorney said (hey, you
have to watch us write down your life story, so you are welcome to write down
our comments). This will save you from having to call or email later and
ask the same questions.
Most attorneys will have a detailed intake form, which has spaces
for pretty much everything you can think of as far as assets, debts and your
personal life. Just like when you’re at the doctor’s office, you have to
answer questions you probably don’t want to, but remember that everything said
between you and your attorney is confidential. You need to be honest – we
can’t help you if we don’t know the whole story or are being lied to.
As far as assets, attorneys don’t need an inventory of every item
in your house (not yet at least – sadly this does happen in some cases later
on). However, we need to know details about your residence and vehicles–
do you own, rent (or lease), mortgage/loan company, whose name is the loan in,
present balance, if there was a premarital interest, has there been an
appraisal and what is the current value of vehicle. Relative to your bank
accounts, stocks, bonds, and retirement, information needed includes if the
accounts are joint or individual, financial institutions they are held at,
balances, loans against the accounts, beneficiary information, and if any of
the monies were premarital in nature. Life insurance policies can be
whole (with cash value) and term (without cash value), and are also considered
in your marital estate, and specifics on those items are typically asked.
Unfortunately, having assets usually means you have debt, so a
complete picture of your credit card balances and outstanding loan details can
help your attorney better assess how things may be divided up between the two
of you. If you are unfamiliar with the amount of debt in your name,
running your credit report beforehand can be very beneficial.
Income and employment benefit information for each party, such as
the cost of health insurance, are factors for child and spousal support, and
are necessary to run accurate guideline recommendations. Many people
bring previously filed income taxes, which can be very helpful especially if
the parties are self-employed or if their income varies significantly from year
to year.
Of course you are asked questions about the kids if you have any,
how you and your spouse cared for them (jointly or more one-sided), cost of
daycare, and what you’d like to see for parenting time and custody.
Explanations as to options for custody and parenting time should be given as
they are usually the source of many disagreements during the divorce.
Your
attorney wants to help you, but keep in mind that he or she is not a miracle
worker – try to go into the appointment with an open mind and realistic
expectations. Otherwise, the retainer
fee won’t be the only thing you’re upset about.
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